Overcoming The Pain of Missing Your Loved Ones
Losing a loved one is something that a lot of us face at some point in our life. What most people do not realize is that the pain and sadness that the passing of someone close can bring on can be really hard to deal with. If not handled properly, such a devastating event can bring on sleeplessness, depression and even suicidal thoughts.
Getting through the pain and grief is a journey that everyone must make for themselves. There is no right or wrong way of grieving and there’s definitely no time limit for grieving; it is something everyone copes with in their own way and at their own pace. What’s important is that when someone is dealing with the death of a loved one, they know how to get through the pain.
Getting through grief
As we said, everyone has their own way of grieving and getting through the pain , but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn from other people’s experiences. Here are a few activities that have helped countless people get through the pain of loss;
Participate in the rituals
Regardless of what background you come from and what religion you belong to, participating in rituals like the memorial service, funeral, wake, etc. can provide a lot of comfort. Just being in the presence of people who knew your loved one and shared great moments with them will bring you peace and comfort.
Moreover, when you talk to these close friends and relatives about your loved one, their great qualities and the memories they left behind, you will learn that you are not alone in this. A lot of people are there for you.
Allow yourself to feel your emotions
At such a time when you have lost your loved one, your mind and soul will be going through a lot of emotions. You will feel anger, sadness, hate and so much more. Even though it might “feel” wrong to be feeling anything other than sadness at this point, the truth is, feeling all these emotions is completely normal.
Moreover, the worst thing you could do to yourself right now is to “toughen up” and stop yourself from feeling anything at all. Doing something like will not take a major toll on your mental health but it will also take you a lot longer to heal.
Visit your Loved One’s Grave & Cemetery Markers
When finding it hard to get through the pain, one of the best you could is to visit your loved one’s grave, stand by their Cemetery Markers and say all that you want to. Let all you emotions out. And, if you don’t want to say anything at all, just quietly sit by their grave. Simply being close to your loved one will help calm you and bring some comfort.
Talk about your grief
If visiting a cemetery is difficult because its not near you, another great way you can deal with your grief is by sharing your grief with someone else. It’s not important who you share this information with; it could be anyone; a sibling, parent, close friends, relatives, neighbors, therapist, etc.
What really matters is that you open up about your grief and let someone in on your healing process. In fact, sharing your grief is one of the most effective ways to heal.